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Break & Build : New Choices Make A New Life

Presence “The Art of Being”

Nostalgia ~ Presence

Presence, you don’t hear this word being used very often in common folk talk. It is, eternal and has the ability to shape the lives of humanity itself, benevolence.

Does that make sense?

Probably not, it is because presence on a conscious level can not be fully understood… And to understand what has just been said is to have felt presence.

Presence is a state of mind, pure and eternal in itself, your true core identity. It is the difference between someone anxiously waiting for a package to arrive and someone patiently waiting for that package.

The difference between Calm and Nervous. Angry and Relaxed. In-Love and In-Fear. Jealousy and Trust.

Don’t get me wrong, all feelings are meant to be felt. It is that presence brings to surface a euphoric feeling that can only be felt in the state of presence.

It is an art form and pure heroin to those who have felt it. We were all born present, a feeling euphoric and curious… Alas, as we aged in society, we lost this sense of presence to societal norms… Insanity.

In most cases individuals usually feel present while traveling overseas to exotic, interesting, nostalgic places. Absorbing everything in and its atmosphere, taking in the presence of all things around them and the benevolence of life.

I recommend “The Power Of Now” written by the author “Eckhart Tolle“. He speaks of presence in its true essence and how to surface this feeling of presence. It is not something you externally obtain but something you surface within.

 

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Dear Fear.

Fear
If we are going to survive this… You must realize.. That fear is not real. It is a product of thoughts you create. Do not misunderstand me.. Danger is very real. But fear is a CHOICE..

When faced with challenges, remember to see things for

what it is and not worse then it is.

Descision Making

Mr GrumpyDecisions decisions decisions, what to do…

All that we are as humans… are prehistoric machines, our decisions are made based on a blueprint that was created for a world lived in the neanderthal days. Fear, Jealousy, Attachment… We choose the emotions because they are what comes naturally to us… Decisions made in a state of jealousy, fear or attachment wont normally be made with the best of intentions… The products we create after are not fulfilling. It may of course give pleasure though… but for how long and what are the consequences.

When making a decision be grounded, be calm and be conscious in your decision. A good way to do this when a on-the-spot though decision has to be made is to BREATH, sometimes we forget how to breath properly when put in tough situations.

In your nose… to your diaphragm… and out your mouth…

Being Mr Angry and Mr Unconscious wont help… but being Mr Calm and Mr Conscious will. This has helped me make some of the toughest decisions i have ever had to make in all levels of my life, friends, career, financials, independence, hobbies, etc.

Just Be Yourself

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Tony: Just be yourself

Me: Just be myself? What! Your crazy! How do i do that?

Just be yourself.

The first thing you have to do when being yourself is to know who you are. You must first drag your ass into your room, box or under your stone and throw away the keys. Ask yourself, more specifically not your mind but your soul.

“Who am i?”

“What do i value?”

“What is my purpose?”

The answers to these questions will answer your forever longing question, “Who am i?”. You want to filter out those who dislike you and keep those of whom do. FOR if you don’t, you will find yourself stuck at a stone wall of neutral relationships.

“To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.”

– Ralph Waldo Emerson

Social Anxiety

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My experience with it and how i came to overcome this thing we like to call… “Social Anxiety”

As a child i grew up in a household of four siblings, a mother and father. I don’t know how exactly i came to be afraid of social situations at such a young age, but i do have my assumptions of it. “I wasn’t allowed out and at a young age and was hardwired by my parents not to speak unless spoken to” and so through primary and high school i was known as the… “Silent Kid”.

When i graduated high school i was sick and tired of having the feeling of discomfort every time someone would ask me how my day was.

This is how i approached overcoming THEE “Social Anxiety”.

Whenever i was at a public gathering with or without my friends and family, i would power down my phone and walk around asking for the time. I would get high amounts of anxiety, a feeling equivalent to jumping out of an airplane, skydiving.

Over time, this built my confidence and competence in social situations. I would then move onto small talk such as, “nice weather today isn’t it” or… “how you doing today?”

Having done this repeatedly I can now have small talk with strangers in all walks of life. My friends now know and understand my personality better and i enjoy the experience of sharing stories.

The SUPER SECRET thing with this method is that… It’s NOT hard!, it will be of course uncomfortable at first but it is all in all a ZERO risk HIGH reward situation. Just remember to smile and be friendly with your body language.

I’d also like to add that if it hadn’t been for this decision to become more social, i wouldn’t of experienced so much positivity in my life in the past few years with friends and family…

I only have one question to ask you…

What have you got to lose?

Mind Equals Power

LiberationOur deepest fear is not that we are inadequate,
but that we are powerful beyond measure.

It is our light, not our darkness, that frightens us.
We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant,
gorgeous, handsome, talented and fabulous?

Actually, who are you not to be?
You are a child of God.

Your playing small does not serve the world.
There is nothing enlightened about shrinking
so that other people won’t feel insecure around you.

We were born to make manifest the glory of God within us.
It is not just in some; it is in everyone.

And, as we let our own light shine, we consciously give
other people permission to do the same.

As we are liberated from our fear,
our presence automatically liberates others.

When in doubt, fear or a feeling of anxiousness. I remember these words and feel liberated from everything and anything even if little.